the work of repair

phone call. birthday card. say hello to that person you live with... rudimentary evidence.

all signs of attempts at normalizing relations. appreciated and distrusted in almost equal measure. try to avoid conversations that encourage:

a. hypochondria
b. discussion about being a five-year-old girl.
c. connection

In the outside world: try to avoid people who talk about their mothers with devotion. Try to avoid conversations about medicine, illness, irritable bowels. . . do not think about that grinding knot that is your stomach.

Remember E.V. Spelman's elements of a genuine apology. Hold out, hold out.


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